i was just involved in a dispute, in Twitch Moderators Club, which i might lose because of popular culture. i said, "i have a feeling that i know what's about to be said to me, and i have one question [for now]: ..." which indicates both that i am already actively listening to the person who is typing and that i am willing to hear what they are about to post. popular culture thinks a different way, so i am currently made out to be condescending and cruel. i would like to be welcome to defend myself, not to be gossiped about amongst however many on that club's Moderation Team then Banned because it's decided that there is no defense for my wrongly perceived behaviour.

to be fair, i could have presented the certain question a different way--and that post might have not sparked the cascade.

on the other hand, the other two people involved in the dispute had superimposed a pre-drawn narrative onto any given thing that i had said or might have said--and it is that narrative which upset them and prompted them to approach me with hostility. {if the narrative was exposed in no other way} one of them tried to quote me and they failed to, except that they are convinced that they quoted me spot-on.

{... and i don't understand why i was timed out for dropping a "salute" reaction, and the other major person in the dispute was not timed out for also posting about the dispute beyond when we were asked to stop [unless the expression of double-standard indicates that it has already been decided that i'll be Banned, and the review process is only formality]}.